So I have this habit…

Who understands where I’m coming from when I say this?

I tend to lose myself in circumstance. No matter how good of a circumstance it may or may not be, eventually, this leads to an unpeaceful mind.

I mean, how could we be at peace with ourselves when the hat(s) we choose to wear overtakes us?…


Our hat is mad cute. Our hat is comfortable and familiar (which doesn’t always mean a good thing but let’s say it is in this case). Our hat may even validate us for a time and elevate our confidence, making us feel all types of statuesqueness.


Then comes the day when that very same hat is all we presume others see when they look and interact with us. Our hat starts to become needy and require more and more maintenance, which for whatever reason, we feel takes away from our truest selves.  Our hat begins to feel heavier and heavier, weighing on us.

Some of us wear multiple hats. Mothers, for example, obviously wear multiple hats by default. Bottom line is hats tend to become burdensome. Don’t get it twisted. Children…children are absolutely blessings.

I mean don’t even think of comin’ for my babies point blank periodt! In this conversation of multiple hats and the loss of peace, however, parenting can have its burdensome moments.

Pouring oneself into this or that circumstance can and often does come about from positives. If we’re not careful to do our due diligence and mentally check in with ourselves, we can be overpowered by the hats we choose to wear and the responsibilities that come along with wearing such hats. It’s the responsibilities that the hat represents with which we use as the measurement to judge ourselves and presume others judge us with. The persona, the responsibilities and perceived meaning of that hat, isn’t us, it’s just a hat. You are you, I am me and hats…well hats have the ability to shade our perceptions of ourselves…for as long as we allow.


Relocating to Tanzania is definitely a great circumstance my family and I are blessed to be in. That circumstance  and all it entails when relocating to a new place so far from norm, may cause you to have (it’s almost an absolute) an abundance of hats to try on. Some hats you may have previously worn may stay, some may be tossed never to be worn again, but many may be added, even prior to the move, as in my case.


So it seems, one main thing to watch out for is the amount of hats you do choose. Pile on enough hats and your face will be hidden. If your face is hidden, you can’t see. You are lost. There’s no peace in the lost. (and I am specifically thinking of lost in oneself at this time) Think about it as if looking into a mirror. If your face is hidden you can’t even see yourself. I don’t know about you but being lost, really lost, lost to yourself and of course others…because you can’t be lost to yourself and be really present for others; this isn’t a good thing. In fact, it brings on anxiety to say the least.


It’s okay to shed some hats, even if just for a time, especially if by not doing so causes peacelessness. Don’t overwhelm yourself into a chaotic mind. Whatever it takes to be at peace and to see clearly is always a plus. Losing yourself in circumstance(s)… an absolute negative.

Have a peaceful, priority hat wearing week everyone. 

Make sure you see yourself.

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Thanks for your gratitude & support, truly.  

Author: piecesofgoretty

My name is Goretty Gordon, also known as the mom from The Jamaitians on YouTube. I wear so many hats, that of a wife, a mom of now 4, a writer and more. As full as my life is I haven't always been present in it. In fact, the posts in this blog express my desire and PURSUIT OF PEACE in my life, a task in itself so difficult made much harder after the MURDER of my mother back in 2001. WRITING has become instrumental in my FINDING PEACE along with other things such as ACCEPTANCE in who I am truly, whatever that may be at any given moment. Many things have transpired in my life since the start of this blog and I can only hope that my turmoil, heartaches and grievances that I've conquered and those that I continue to work through will benefit someone in getting through their own pains.

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